A Painful Week

Publishing this weekly blog newsletter helps our family reach many goals, one of these is to keep a consistent family history record. Because of this, I feel the need to record the painful and hard along with the fun and eventful.

This week was a painful one emotionally and physically as we experienced our first miscarriage. I was in a lot of pain over the weekend. Monday I contacted the doctor who wanted to see me right away. In the same afternoon I found out I was pregnant and that I couldn't keep the baby. The pregnancy was an ectopic or tubal pregnancy, meaning the baby was growing in my tube instead of my uterus. This is a serious condition because the tube will quickly rupture if it is not caught in time. My choices were invasive surgery and likely losing my fallopian tube or an injection of a low dose of a chemo drug, and the rare chance of losing my hair. I have to say it wasn't the funnest decision we've ever had to make. Because I have had 5 c-sections the surgery was an even higher risk for me, so we opted for the drug route. Steve was scheduled to leave out of town an hour before the procedure, and I thought I'd be brave and have him go anyway. My wise mother encouraged me to have him cancel his trip, and he let me know he would have anyway. I was so grateful to have him with me through the ordeal, and he was able to work from home the next two days to care for me. The procedure itself was pretty simple (two massive shots of a neon yellow liquid) but the experience was crushing. It is not very comforting to weep into a pillow that is covered with doctor's office crunchy tissue paper, but the nurses were sweet, the doctor caring and Steve held my hand through it all. With ultra sounds and doctors appointments it took the bulk of the day Tuesday and my mother graciously cared for the kids at our home. Wednesday was the worst of it, with nausea and cramping and generally feeling lousy from the drug injection. It also made my brain fuzzy and I couldn't sleep. As I lay wide awake in the early morning hours on Wednesday I thought of all the sweet children I know that have had to or are currently going through the chemo process. I wanted to hug Jacob and Serenity and Tyler to me and kiss them for being so brave. A huge thanks to my sister Bree and sister-in-law Becca and my Mom for caring for my children while I recovered. Wednesday I was at 100% yuck, Thursday 50%, but today, Friday, I'm feeling mostly myself again - about 10% left to full recovery. Tonight my gold wedding ring turned my finger green. Is that bad? We will have to wait awhile to try again because of the chemical in my system.

Thank you everyone for your kindness and prayers. I am so grateful we caught the problem early and that we have the medical technology to solve the problem (women have died from ectopic pregnancy's in the past.) We would love to have another baby and trust in the Lord's timing for our family.

Issue 27

Day at the Zoo with Dad

For my birthday present Steve gave me 24 hours off and I took him up on it on Friday. I spent the night at my parents and got caught up on a lot of projects that had been piling on the back burner (and that can get messy.) I had a lovely lunch out with my mom and sisters and the kids got to spend the day at the zoo with their Dad. Thanks Babe!

Our First Chess Tournament

The chess tournament was fun. We got there and signed in and then had to wait for everyone else to sign in, at that was kind of boring. But then they posted who we would play for the first game and then we would go to our assigned table and start playing chess. Parents were not allowed in the room during games. The pairing was by grade and once we had played the game we would go into the practice room and wait until they posted the pairing for the next round. There were 5 rounds total. Overall lost 2 games, won 2 games and tied one game. After all 5 rounds they gave out awards. I didn't win a first place through 5th place trophy, but I did win a medal! It was really fun.

(Note by Mom: Daniel also won two of his rounds and their coach said if they could win one or two games their first tournament they would be doing really well. Now that we have our first tournament behind us, we know what to expect and will be even better prepared next time. I'm proud of the boys for their good sportsmanship and tenacity.)

The Tail of Despereaux by Daniel

The Tail of Despereaux is a cool book about a mouse and he loves the Princess Pea. Miggory Sow is a servant and she has really beat up ears and there are lots of rats in the dungeon. One rat goes up into the castle and falls into the queen's soup and she dies of a heart attack. Despereaux gets sent to the dungeon because he talked to The Pea, which was illegal. The rat and Miggory Sow kidnap the princess and take her to the dungeon, but that is all I'm going to tell you, because I want you to read the book yourself. I like the book.

Liberty Girls by Janey

First we got together at Liberty Girls. Then we said the prayer and did the pledge of allegiance. Then we made pies. First you roll the dough out into a circle and put it in the pan. Then put the pie filling in. Then you make another circle with some more dough and put it on top of the pie. Before you do, you can cut shapes in the pie top with cookie cutters and then you set it on top of the pie and then you cook it. I made an apple pie.

Giving Thanks

We hope everyone (in the US anyway) enjoyed a wonderful Thanksgiving holiday surrounded by family, great food, and hearts full of gratitude. I know we did!



Artwork by Janey age 6

Issue 26

More Peter Pan

Participating in Peter Pan was such a memorable experience for the whole family. Steve L. worked on his theater merit badge during the process and he and his dad helped paint the pirate ship. The window seat boxes in the nursery were painted by yours truely.

Peter Pan's grand entrance.Wendy, Michael and John flying
Tinkerbell

Steve delivered all his lost boy lines perfectly and with great energy.

"I won't grow up!" (That's Daniel on the far right.)

Janey as the white tiger

We had the perfect Captain Hook for our play.Steve- My favorite part of being in the play was being out on stage and acting in front of everyone. My favorite part of the play is when Peter and the lost boys sing “I won’t grow up.” I can’t wait until I can be in other performances.

Daniel- Being in the play was a great experience. I loved being a lost boy. It was really fun meeting all of the people. My favorite part of the play was when they were in the nursery because there were funny parts.

Janey- My favorite part of being in the play was doing curtain call, because we got to come in first to bow. My favorite part of the play is when Michael is learning to fly and the only happy thought he can think of is candy.

Life after Neverland by Noreen

Life after Neverland –

After the curtain closed Monday on the final performance of Peter Pan, (yes, I dutifully watched my children in all 6 performances,) I had to “grow-up” and contemplate putting structure and order back in our lives. I officially declared Tuesday “recover from Peter Pan day.” I let everyone sleep in (after many late night performances) and then put them all to work. We cleaned and did laundry for 9 hours straight. Wednesday we woke to our wonderfully clean house and rebooted our familiar homeschool routine. (Now if I could just get the songs out of my head!) The play was a great experience and the kids are looking forward to doing another. I told them it could be an annual project, because I just don’t think I (or my house) could handle the intense play schedule more often than that.

Issue 25

Quinn’s Homecoming!!

My baby brother Quinn (sorry man - you'll always be my baby brother) return home on Friday from his two year LDS mission to Iowa. We have loved following his mission vicariously through e-mail and he has been such a wonderful example to our children. Several missionaries were coming home on the same flight and there was quite a crowd waiting for them to arrive at the airport. I had dreamed four times the night before that we had missed his flight coming in, so we were at the airport for a good hour before he finally emerged triumphant into the baggage claim area. A great cheer burst out from the whole crowd when we finally saw the first suit turn the corner. There were hugs and tears all around. Quinn, we are so proud of you and glad to have you back. And your looking GOOD!

Pilgrim Hats

Janey went to bed before I remembered to have her tell you about these adorable pilgrim hat cookies she made. Her Liberty Girls held a craft fair and all proceeds went to the Humanitarian Aid fund. They are clever and easy. You coat a marshmallow in melted chocolate and center on an upside down fudge striped cookie. Chill in the fridge and then make a buckle with yellow decorator frosting. They were a hit and she sold out for a good cause.

Opening Night by Steve L.

Last Night we preformed PETER PAN. It was opening night (kind of coincidental that it was my Mom's birthday) and it was a full house. It felt great to actually perform. All those who weren’t there: YOU MISSED OUT!!! After two months of practice the big days are finally here (there are six performances) I LOVE ACTING!

(Note by Mom: THANK YOU SO MUCH to Great Grandma, Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles and Cousins that have come or will come to support the kids in their play. They have worked so hard and it was so wonderful for them to perfrom in front of their family.

I'm not happy with the dress rehersal photos I took, and I promise better photos next week. Steve had another performance tonight, 3 on Saturday and one on Monday! Daniel and Janey are in two of the Saturday Performances.)

Whangamata by Noreen

The best part on staying at Opoutere for 8 days was it was only a 20 minute drive to our favorite beach Whangamata (said Fongamutah, go figure?) Playing at the beach at Whangamata were my father summered as a child was my favorite part of our trip. It's the best boogie-boarding beach we've ever seen and we taught all the children down to Janey how to ride the waves. They took to it like fish and had so much fun. Clark Island is an island not far of the beach that at low tide you can walk out to on a sand bar. Anxious to try this Steve found out when low tide would be and he and Whitney hiked over to the island and explored. They had fun but the water was up to their chests and we didn't feel it safe for the younger kids to try. When we came back to the beach a couple of days later we found that he had misread the sign and they had actually crossed at high tide! Oops. We crossed that afternoon at low tide and the water only came mid-calf on the little girls. The children were fascinated with all the hermit crabs they found hiding in the rocks and we played until the tide was turning and we had to head back to the beach.

Clark Island.

The walk to Clark Island.